Have your heard of crab mentality? Here is the definition of crab mentality for Wikipedia:
Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket (also barrel, basket or pot), is a way of thinking best described by the phrase, "if I can't have it, neither can you." The metaphor refers to a bucket of crabs Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the bucket, but instead they grab at each other in a useless "King of the Hill" competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise. The analogy in human behavior is claimed to be that members of a group will attempt to negate or diminish the importance of any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, spite, conspiracy, or competive feelings, to halt their progress.
When we decide to step out of the norm and choose a different path we often encounter the naysayers or “crabs” that often look like family and friends or people only telling you for your own good. Listening to the “crabs” can keep you in the bucket and that is when we need to decide who we really need to listen to.
Deciding to leave stable jobs and drive a truck can bring out a lot of “crabs” and we ran into a lot of them , maybe even an ocean full. The true support came from our daughters who were 100% for doing something new and exciting. Over time though many came to realize the decision for us was a good one with great consequences.
Some of the worst “crabs” we run into are within our own industry and can be found everywhere, fuel islands, customers, or when we are parked. Often we are out on a ledge and we could fail easily or we could set the boundaries to try something new. Our truck skirts are a prime example and we hear both sides. Many or supportive and ask about fuel mileage and what precautions we have taken to avoid a blowout. These people we usually have a very interesting conversation with and that leads them to thinking of what they can do to improve their operation.
Crabs also come out of the woodwork when they see someone get out of a truck in slacks and a tie. The worst we have heard is that we are trying to ruin the trucking industry, which always loads to a smile as it is pretty amazing that a tie can ruin trucking as we know it. While once again this is often over the top it is fun to hear the stories from people we have met that change their attire to button down shirts and slacks and the responses they receive.
When I write about our fuel mileage even among friends we see the crabs come out which is often surprising to me. If you want to see "crabs" at work view this post on Facebook about our fuel milage posted on the Freightliner Team Run Smart Facebook page October 3rd 2016 where our fuel mileage blog was posted. It is ugly is all I have to say 87 responses and probley 80 of them are tearing us apart. The first response we hear is usually along these lines, well you don’t drive a real truck, or if you hauled 80,000 lbs then we could talk. Well we do drive a “real” truck and we cannot haul 80,000 lbs as that is not how our truck is set up. The ones that comment this way also cannot haul boats either so they are also lacking as being a real truck. When we compare our truck to those like us our fuel mileage is exceptional.
We as well as others I know are often considered lucky as we are often in the right place at the right time for a load, for a new challenge, or to have something written about our experiences. Lucky? I think not it is a lot of very hard work to be lucky over and over again and I challenge anyone that wants to be lucky to get busy and get the work done behind the scenes.
Sometimes the crabs pull exceptionally hard and it would be easy to let go and slide back into the bucket with the other crabs but then we think “how boring would that be?” and we once again start looking for something new to try or exceed at. We have learned crabs never sleep, they are often in disguise, and their biggest joy in life is to complain about others while doing nothing themselves. Are you still in the crab bucket or are you one of the crabs holding others back?